This post is springboarding off of a guest post entitled "Canadian-Ish" by Kyran Pittman on Her Bad Mother, which you should go read so that this makes more sense. It started out as a comment, but it's something that I've been meaning to post on for a while, so it's grown from there into a real post.On the surface, I'm a Canadian ex-pat who moved to the U.S. in 2005. Culturally and definitively, I'm Canadian, having spent the first 24 years of my life north of the 49th parallel in a time when Canadian identity was going through phases of being defined as, "Well, I'm not sure what we are, but we're not American!", but it's still a bit more complicated than just being an ex-pat or an immigrant. (Side note: As a kid, I always thought it was so funny that my mom was an immigrant, because to me, immigrants came on ships in the 1800s and early 1900s, had to learn a new language, and travelled in steerage.) Growing up with a dual citizenship and choosing to relocate as an adult have put me somewhere on the scale of Canadian-ish and American-ish, and where I fit on the scale completely depends on the day.
Deep down, I'm probably more Canadian than American, but I've always known as much about American history as Canadian, and I was raised to be patriotically both. In fact, my family was and is, in some ways, more patriotic than many other Canadian families because my mom, being American, makes a big deal of national holidays, including Canadian ones (she's lived there for 30+ years now but has never become a citizen). Colin and I were commenting that she decorates the yard and house more for Canada Day than most people around here do, and part of that, I'm sure, has to do with the fact that July 4th is such a huge holiday in the States.
While Canadian schools learn much more about American history, politics, and economics than American schools do about the Canadian counterparts, it was always also a big part of what we had at home. In our house, knowing about American history and culture was more than just the Americanization of Canadian media and the influences of having mostly American programming.
In California, I'm the "token Canadian" and that's how certain people introduce me. "This is Alida. She's Canadian!" I've explained Calgary's bizarre weather patterns to more people than I can count, and I've answered, "So, is it really different to be living here?" a gajillion times, give or take a few.
When it comes to Colin's and my relationship, I'm American: his key to a green card (all those years that I got tongue-in-cheek marriage proposals because I've got a dual, it didn't really occur to me that I'd
actually know more about marriage visas and immigration than I ever wanted to). And yes, I know that I'm more than a green card to him, and he doesn't see me as "AMERICAN," but legally, in our relationship, I am. Or, at least, I will be.
When I come back to Calgary, people scrutinize my behavior to see if I'm becoming "more American." Too American? Maybe. I try to evade the stereotypes of either nationality just to make life easier, but occasionally, it's just more fun to play into them. I've heard it all, from "Wow, you must hate having to live in the States" to "You live in California? Why on earth are you working in Calgary?" to "Man, you're so lucky that you get Target and cheaper gas!" Of those statements, I tend to lean towards the last. No one's forcing me to live in California; if I didn't want to, I wouldn't. But I do want to, and we do want to, and we're planning to be there for a while, and trust me, it's not because it's the easier place to be.
According to my passports (yes, I have two), I'm whichever one I want to travel on. These days, since my residency is officially in California, that's mostly American. I file taxes in both countries (although that has less to do with citizenship than with the fact that I've spent time working in both countries every year since 2005), I have a SIN and a SSN, I have both a birth certificate and a certificate of birth abroad, I fully identify with the Canadian jokes on
How I Met Your Mother, and I think that "Let's Go to the Mall" is brilliant (and I regret not buying the t-shirt when it was on Glarkware). I mock a lot of original Canadian programming, but I have a vested interest in Canada's entertainment industry, given that it pays my bills. I know what a toque is and what pencil crayons are. At one time, I knew the "I am Canadian" rant inside out, even though I don't drink beer. In school, I couldn't draw a maple leaf to save my life--but then again, I don't think that many kids could, so that probably doesn't mean anything except that I'm a bad artist.
I vehemently deny that I say "oot" and "aboot" (I'm convinced that that's more an Ontario thing than a Canadian thing), but I proudly say "SORE-ry," not "SAH-ry." My spellings vaccilate between "our" and "or" (tending towards the "or") and "re" and "er" (generally going for "re") with no real rhyme or reason, and I stick a double-L on words before I add a suffix (see: travelling).
I cheer for the Canadians during the Winter Olympics and both countries during the Summer Olympics--but that's mostly because, during the summer games, Canada's medal hopes seem to be on par with some small African country with three athletes representing the entire population.
Our kids will have dual citizenships, because it opens so many doors, and I'm so grateful that I have the opportunity to live and work in either country. We're planning to be in California for the foreseeable future--that's where we'll start our marriage and build our home. Sometimes, the idea of taking vacation/disability leave when having babies, and not having the security of 12 months of maternity leave, scares me. If we have health problems, we'll be back in Canada as soon as we can get there.
And yet, even though I hold that magic key to giving them duals, it's not guaranteed. If our kids are born in the U.S., it's easy, and we can definitely give them the Canadian side. If we move back to Canada before we have kids, it'll be time for some serious number-crunching to figure out whether I've spent that magic number of days on American soil. Because I'm a dualie, it's not automatic, and maybe I'm not legally American enough to give my kids those same opportunities, even though I'm American enough to give Colin a green card.
Mostly, I'm Canadian. I'll laugh at anyone who thinks we live in igloos and wear parkas for 11 months of the year, that we all speak fluent French, or that Calgary and Toronto are next to each other. I'll deride Canadian cell phone plans, amazon.ca, and the extra fees on flights (although I still tend to prefer Air Canada to WestJet for flights to L.A., just because they have better schedules and better in-flight entertainment). Far from making me less Canadian, I think that those are the things that more deeply entrench my Canuck-ness.
Still, I defend American culture and my choice to live there just as vehemently as I defend the correct pronounciation of sorry. I'm just as proud of the American history in my family as I am of the Canadian history, and I've probably had more emotional patriotic moments as an American than I have as a Canadian.
Call me Canadian, call me American--either way, I'll probably clarify.